Do you ever feel like a slave to all your electronics? Lately I have. When we go out to eat, I notice how many people are on their phones and not talking to the person in front of them. When I open up my laptop, I notice how many of us moms are all on facebook venting or liking statuses or posting witty quotes, or pinning ideas on Pinterest that we’ll never actually execute (let’s be real) or shopping on Amazon or Etsy because what could be better than window shopping from the comfort of your own home in your PJs?! Or maybe we’re blogging all the time or chatting on message boards all day long.
I’m not here to cast stones. I’ve gotten to be so dependent on having my phone or laptop right next to me that I’m scared I don’t know how to function without technology. If my cell phone and laptop simultaneously broke tomorrow (it could happen!), would I survive or would I crumble into a mess of tears and anxiety on the floor?
I feel like laptops and smart phones are going to really hurt the generation we’re raising right now. I know you might read this and think, “Oh, I don’t do this. This isn’t a problem of mine.” And if it isn’t, awesome! I applaud you for being stronger than I am at resisting those temptations to just “hop on really quickly.” But if you do find yourself getting on your computer off and on throughout the course of the day just because it’s there or you can’t seem to get your phone out of your hand, I’d just encourage you to dig deep into your heart and be real with yourself. That’s what I did.
I asked myself some questions. Why are you staying home with your children instead of working? Because I’m so very blessed that my husband can support our family right now and I can watch my children grow, be here for them every day, teach them what we want them to know at age-appropriate times and raise them up in the way we want them to go. So why do you waste all this time online when you could be watching them grow, teaching them, raising them up? Because…it’s there? I honestly have no better answer than that. Because my laptop is there, I feel like I need to get on it. You know, ’cause I might miss something if I don’t.
I’ve been trying so hard lately to be a more intentional mom. I took the facebook app off my phone a few months ago and stepped back from a message board I was a part of just to regain some perspective and give myself one less thing to take me away from my kids. It’s certainly freed up some time, but I’ve managed to replace that time with more time on facebook or Pinterest. So yeseterday…I asked my husband if he could somehow turn off the internet during the day. Does that sound weird?! Well, I did. And as it turns out, he can. So from today forward, I’ve given myself exactly one hour during the day to have the internet on: from 12:30 to 1:30, when my kiddos nap, I can get online. And all other times after 7:00 in the morning? My internet will not work.
There’s something so refreshing and exciting about this, but totally scary, too. I’m sort of embarrassed to put it out there that I have to actually have my internet turned off during the day to keep myself off the computer, but I’m just being real. And I think for a lot of you, if you were being real, too, you’d see what I did. We are a generation of moms addicted to the internet.
G’day, my internet lovelies. Hope to be seeing less of you during my days with my beautiful, amazing and incredible children who need their mama.